When is it time to leave?

When we as young and mature women, find ourselves in monogamist relationships, it’s easy to lose ones-self in order to maintain stability. But when has losing yourself become a good thing? We become rapped up in so many projects, that we lose focus on the most important one (ourselves). So when is it no longer worth the trouble? When is it time to start giving back to yourself? If you wind up accommodating your partner just to prevent fights, rather than having some hope that it’s worth trying to work things out; if your relationship is based on evasiveness, deception, and withholding; if it’s characterized by lack of room for change and growth; or if it just doesn’t seem that your life is better in the relationship than it would be out of it, then it’s time to consider ending it. Getting help is easy. You don’t need to do it alone. Friends can be an excellent source of support and insight. Individual or group therapy can help, too. But if we do not want to leave and things aren’t that bad, ya’ll just need to work out a few minor things, then therapy will work. Sometimes problems are resistant to change and it seems as if talking to our partners and to friends and family gets us nowhere. When we feel that we’ve gone around and around on the same issue with no improvement, we may become completely overwhelmed and feel stuck in patters we can’t change on our won. That’s when we might seek therapy, either as individuals or together. But understand therapy isn’t for the weak, it’s for those who want change and aren’t able to find the answers on their own. Relationships can be difficult sometimes, but knowing what’s healthy and safe for you is what will determine the stability of the relationship.